Be Careful How You Snoop

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There's an old saying, "If you suspect your spouse is cheating, they probably are." There is another saying that might apply in the case of a Michigan man, "Be careful what you ask for." A Michigan husband has been charged with a felony count of computer misuse, for reading his wife's email to confirm his suspicions.

Leon Walker, 33, used the couple's shared computer to access his wife's email account at Gmail. The problem the authorities have with this is that he used her password to do it, which they consider a crime. Privacy law writer Frederick Lane told the Detroit Free Press that he questions whether a wife can expect privacy on a computer the couple shares. The couple was granted a divorce this month.

While you may suspect your spouse of cheating, you should be careful in how you confirm or dismiss your suspicions. Confronting your spouse may be the most forthright way of doing it, but it could also irreparably damage a relationship that you may wish to keep, whether the spouse is guilty or not. Accessing your spouse's email may be off-limits, especially in the case of an over-zealous prosecutor, but if you borrow your spouse's phone - with their permission - a quick look at the incoming and outgoing calls may yield some useful information - without exposing you to felony charges.

You can then use a free reverse phone lookup service to check out who your husband or wife has been talking to, and investigate further. A reverse lookup of a phone number can often yield a name and even an address to check out. If you stake out that address, you could catch someone in the act and confirm your suspicions, or find out that your fears are groundless. Put your fears to rest by knowing the truth.